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Posted in Uncategorized on July 1, 2009 by wildchild36
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sex up your consent

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , on May 21, 2009 by wildchild36

I always hear people talking about consent as if it is this horribly awkward experience to endure. Yes, consent can be this way. But then, all sex can be awkward, if you’re in an awkward mindset. If you have a sexy, confident minset about sex, it becomes less awkward. Same goes for consent. Try this sometime: Get two hershey’s kisses. Eat the first one normally. How did you like that? Now, close your eyes and eat the second one as sesually as possible. Really savor it. See the difference? If you treat consent as something you have to get done and over with, it won’t be much fun. But if you incorperate it into the foreplay, suddenly it’s a whole lot sexier. Consent works best when you work it into general dirty talk. Why don’t you try talking about what you’d like to do to each other? This will also give each of you a good idea of what you want out of the encounter. And what’s better than everyone getting what they want?

Masturbation Mondays: hand tricks for the ladies

Posted in Uncategorized with tags on May 18, 2009 by wildchild36

Sorry about the haitus. I have been in transit, but am not solidly situated in my new locale for the summer and ready to spend way too much time talking about sex once again!

Masturbation mondays will be a regular column on this blog. Because, after all, the safest sex of all is the sex you have with yourself. Not to mention a great way to pass the time or cheer yourself up. When you learn more about what gets your rocks off, you can give your partner a better idea of what gets your rocks off, and better sex is had by all *celebratory cheer*. Here are some of the basics for vaginas.

Before you start:

  • Wash your hands: you wouldn’t eat without washing your hands, would you? Well, even if you would, washing your hands is just a nice way to make sure that you know exactly what’s going to be going into your snatch; your hand, and not the grime from the 20 odd places it’s been today.
  • Clip and file any jagged or rough edges on your nails: So you don’t scratch yourself. ‘Nuf said.
  • Relax: Put on some music, light some incense, or do whatever it is that makes you most relaxed. This is you time, enjoy it!
  • Get yourself aroused: What is it that turns you on? Sexy thoughts? Sexy reads? Sexy pictures? Sexy smells? All of the above? Go for it. Getting yourself turned on is crucial because it helps you get wet, which makes any kind of sex, with yourself or with other, a lot more fun. If you have issues with getting wet (and many of us do), get a nice bottle of lube (more info on lube to come in future posts) and use some on yourself during this process

Doing the deed: some tricks of the trade

The important thing to keep in mind here is that everyone’s different. Some of these may work for you, others not. Just keep on experimenting and eventually you’ll find your rhythm.  Some people can’t get off with just their hands, and that’s fine too. there are many more ways to masturbate than simply using your hands, but I’ll save that for another post 😉

  • long broad strokes up your labia is a good warm up. Some people use a whole hand or multiple fingers to stimultate the whole area. When using a single finger, you can also explore your labia for hot spots (places that feel especially great when touched).
  • Tease yourself. Don’t go to the clit all at once. This will prolong the build up, which will intensify the orgasm. So try putting off touching or massaging your clit.
  • When you finally get to your clit, there are many ways to touch it. some people simply rub it with their fingers either up and down or in little circles or run their knuckles across it. Some, however, find that touching the clit directly is too intense. If this is the case, you may want to try touching areas right around the clit, like the clitoral hood, or simply moving around the clit with your finger in a circular fashion. Circles are the name of the game, which I guess is where term “DJing” (slang for female masturbation) came from.

And there you have it. Go forth and experiment, dear readers!

Condoms, they’re not just for oddly shaped water balloons anymore

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , on May 9, 2009 by wildchild36

Now, if you’ve ever found yourself in the “family planning” section of the drug store, then you know there are a lot more than just one kind of condom. This variety may be a little intimidating at first, but never you worry. The variety is there so that you can find the condom that feels, looks, smells or even tastes best for you and your partner. Some might even make sex feel better than sex without a condom (not to mention a whole lot safer). So buckle up your seatbelts and keep your arms and legs inside the vehicle at all times because you’re about to see that the world of condoms is a pretty small world after all.

Size:

Don't have an 8 inch penis? Don't use a magnum!

Don't have an 8 inch penis? Don't use a magnum!

Condoms come in many different sizes. But hang on there before you grab those magnums, buddy. If you wear the wrong size condom, it is more likely to slip off during sex. Most regular sized condoms will fit any penis so just stick with them. Some individuals, however, need a different sized condom. If you do go down the larger condom route, just make sure it’s for the right reasons. Wearing a bigger condom will not make your penis any bigger, so check your wishful thinking at the door.

Shape:

Just one of the many shapes of shaped condoms. This one is called the Pleasure Plus

Just one of the many shapes of shaped condoms. This one is called the Pleasure Plus

If condoms are uncomfortable for you, or tight in some area, then what you may be looking for is a different shaped condom. These wider tip condoms, such as the Inspiral and Pleasure Plus (these are specific brands but most any condom brand makes a wide tip condom), have more room at the head of the condom so there’s not quite so much pressure on the tip of your penis. So when you do the deed, you’ll be feeling whatever you’re putting your penis into, rather than the condom. Many men report that sex with these types of condoms feels a lot closer to sex without condoms. These condoms are also great if you’ve been having issues with condoms falling off during sex. Partners also report a higher level of sensation from these kinds of tips, so that’s another thing to look forward to.

Texture:

Some condoms have many of these features, such as wide head and textured. Play around and see what works for you.

Some condoms have many of these features, such as wide head and textured. Play around and see what works for you.

When a condom says it’s ribbed or vaguely discribes itself as being for “her pleasure”, it means it’s a textured condom. Some of these condoms have raised ridges (i.e. ribbed) while others have raised studs. Either way, these are designed to create more of a sensation for your partner when you penetrate them. Some people are big fans of this sensation. Others, not so much. Like all of these varieties, it’s really a matter of preference.

Material:

It is a sad fact of life that many of us are allergic latex (Allergies are an important thing to ask your partner about beforehand, not only because you should be talking about safter sex options with them anyway, but also because nothing ruins the moment like anaphalactic shock). But never fear, there are still condoms out there for you! These days there are a variety of non-latex condoms out there. For a long time, the only option for people allergic to latex was lambskin condoms. This is unfortunate, considering lambskin condoms prevent neither STI’s nor pregnancy. (They still sell lambskin condoms but be sure to steer clear of them. Besides, they’re made of animal intestines, and who wants that on their junk?) However, in the modern, space age times we live in, we have access to this revolutionary new material called “plastic”. Polyurithane plastic, to be exact. Durex Avanti, Lifestyles Skyn, and Trojan Supra are all made out of this material. There is a slightly (emphasis on slight) higher chance of tearing with these condoms though, so be sure to put some lube on the inside and outside to minimize the chances of that happening.

Lubrication:

So many flavors, so little time...

So many flavors, so little time...

Most condoms you find in the store will have some kind of lubrication. This helps to make the condom more comfy and to reduce the chances of tearing. However, the kind of lube that the condom comes with can vary immensely. Some are flavored or scented. Others are warming or cooling. Explore how these different sensations feel by trying these condoms out or by trying warming or cooling lube by yourself while masturbating. You might also opt for an unlubed condom. These are best if you are worried about allergies to lube or you are having sex with a sex toy. Use a condom with a sex toy? I hear you ask. Yup. Using a condom with sex toys prevents bacteria from getting in the toy and makes cleanup five times simpler. In any case, lubes can have adverse reactions to the things in the toy and also it means the toy is even less messy after you’re done. If you do use a lubricated condom, you might want to put a bit of extra lube on both sides to make your experience extra-nice.

And with that, go forth and experiment, everyone!

Yup, it's a glow in the dark condom. Rise and shine everyone!

Yup, it's a glow in the dark condom. Rise and shine everyone!

For the Love of God, Don’t be Scared!

Posted in Uncategorized on May 7, 2009 by wildchild36

All too often these days, talk of safer sex (if it happens at all, but that’s a whole other post) is laced with fear tactics. Do this or you’ll get an STI. Take this or you’ll get pregnant. Ogga Booga! You know the basic gist of it.

Cosmically, this is not how it ought to be. You know it, I know it. You’re health teacher from 7th grade who put a condom on a bananna know it (though it’s something they fight to ignore). Sex shouldn’t be scary. Thus, I will make it my mission to make safe sex sexy, not scary. And trust me, it’s possible. I will show you how to get your kinky, freaky self on and how to add safety in ways that can even enhance the mood. And without further ado, my blog!