Masturbation Mondays: hand tricks for the ladies

Sorry about the haitus. I have been in transit, but am not solidly situated in my new locale for the summer and ready to spend way too much time talking about sex once again!

Masturbation mondays will be a regular column on this blog. Because, after all, the safest sex of all is the sex you have with yourself. Not to mention a great way to pass the time or cheer yourself up. When you learn more about what gets your rocks off, you can give your partner a better idea of what gets your rocks off, and better sex is had by all *celebratory cheer*. Here are some of the basics for vaginas.

Before you start:

  • Wash your hands: you wouldn’t eat without washing your hands, would you? Well, even if you would, washing your hands is just a nice way to make sure that you know exactly what’s going to be going into your snatch; your hand, and not the grime from the 20 odd places it’s been today.
  • Clip and file any jagged or rough edges on your nails: So you don’t scratch yourself. ‘Nuf said.
  • Relax: Put on some music, light some incense, or do whatever it is that makes you most relaxed. This is you time, enjoy it!
  • Get yourself aroused: What is it that turns you on? Sexy thoughts? Sexy reads? Sexy pictures? Sexy smells? All of the above? Go for it. Getting yourself turned on is crucial because it helps you get wet, which makes any kind of sex, with yourself or with other, a lot more fun. If you have issues with getting wet (and many of us do), get a nice bottle of lube (more info on lube to come in future posts) and use some on yourself during this process

Doing the deed: some tricks of the trade

The important thing to keep in mind here is that everyone’s different. Some of these may work for you, others not. Just keep on experimenting and eventually you’ll find your rhythm.  Some people can’t get off with just their hands, and that’s fine too. there are many more ways to masturbate than simply using your hands, but I’ll save that for another post 😉

  • long broad strokes up your labia is a good warm up. Some people use a whole hand or multiple fingers to stimultate the whole area. When using a single finger, you can also explore your labia for hot spots (places that feel especially great when touched).
  • Tease yourself. Don’t go to the clit all at once. This will prolong the build up, which will intensify the orgasm. So try putting off touching or massaging your clit.
  • When you finally get to your clit, there are many ways to touch it. some people simply rub it with their fingers either up and down or in little circles or run their knuckles across it. Some, however, find that touching the clit directly is too intense. If this is the case, you may want to try touching areas right around the clit, like the clitoral hood, or simply moving around the clit with your finger in a circular fashion. Circles are the name of the game, which I guess is where term “DJing” (slang for female masturbation) came from.

And there you have it. Go forth and experiment, dear readers!


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